The decision has been made and action was taken by filing for divorce or a Petition for Custody. Whether your case is by mutual agreement or contested, what must be agreed upon is the direction for raising your children. Whether you are the parent who has gained physical placement of your children or the parent who has visitation, you need to make sure that you are parenting together.
Your child has (or children have) the right to freely love both parents. While you may have bitter feelings or feelings of indifference towards your ex, you must not let those feelings ruin your child’s relationship with you or their other parent. You may find out that those feelings may have a greater negative impact on your relationship with your child/children than expected.
Putting together a parenting plan will help each party see that the needs of the children are the utmost priority. If the parties cannot agree, the courts will ultimately intervene to resolve visitation, support and custody. When a Judge intervenes they will not do what they think is best for you or your spouse’s particular situation, but do what they think is best for the entire case in general and this may not be anything close to how you wished your case to resolve. [Read more...]